So that guilt never offends forgiveness...

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Lately, my mind was wandering unrestrained (or almost) when these words came back to me: "…It's because we feel guilty that we believe we owe an infinite debt compared to what we've received..."

No doubt influenced by the floral scent and chocolatey taste of Valentine's Day, I wondered about the impact of the weight of guilt on the sincere desire to repair a damaged friendship, a wounded love.

What about honorable intentions when they are trapped by a heavy and persistent feeling of guilt?

Don't think for a moment that I advocate arrogance in defiance of the pain inflicted. Any injury requires an indispensable, flat, sincere, and unreserved apology before obtaining deliverance from a chilly quarantine.

A fair dose of guilt is conceivable when the pact of sincerity has been tainted, trust degraded, and the integrity of feelings undermined.

But when the promise of humbly implored forgiveness looms, one must take stock of the powerful message being sent and understand that despite the pain, the desire to love endures as much as the hope that the magic still works.

Don't expect me to give you a universal recipe. The matter is too delicate. The pain following a wound caused by betrayal, deception, or a lie depends as much on the sensitivity of the person scorned as on the strength of the bond between the protagonists.

The subtle prescription to be administered can only be effective if the dosage is highly personalized. But no “guilty party” should lose hope. Beyond the losses, if at least a tiny trace of true love survives the chaos, it will be enough to envision a possible future.

After the shock and rejection, salvation lies in the ability of one to beg forgiveness and the generosity of the other to grant it. But for the field of possibilities to open wide, it is imperative that the “guilty party” renounce the paralysis of excessive flagellation and dare to reinvent themselves by capitalizing on the kindness that led the other to forgiveness.

This constructive approach provides relief and promotes the proper recalibration of the debt we know we owe. While burning up in remorse aggravates suffering, hinders the dynamics of forgiveness, and paralyzes self-esteem. It does not bode well for any happy future.

No patched dress can regain its splendor. It takes something new, something unprecedented, to surprise and win back. Nothing is more generous than a heart that frees itself. Nothing is more receptive than a heart that relearns joy.

A happy future is shaped by a present well lived. Rather than risk losing everything by remaining chained to past failures, it is essential to decide to conjugate the verb "reinvent" in the present tense. This perspective unlocks the full potential of humans to turn poison into medicine, thus creating increased happiness.

I won't say more; I'm curious to discover how my words resonate with you...